I think it's safe to say we feel like it's already been a year and yet it's only April. While I do feel the worst is behind us, it still can feel more out of our hands than ever before in life!
If you’re like me, you’ve experienced every emotion possible every day of the week in all this and were not 100% sure when we will be getting off the roller coaster. When so much is out of our control, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and frantic. I’ve even had my moments of panicky, emotional spirals that ultimately result in coming back to this simple question: what CAN I control?
For real, there’s not much in the world that we’re able to change right now. So it’s my belief that now is the time to focus more on the inner, to look at areas in our lives, mental health, communities, families, and businesses that could use a little more care and love. Give those things some attention right now, because honestly, it's the only power we have at this current point in time.
My Best Practices TO FEEL Like YOU Are In CONTROL When Life Gets Hard
Ya' know what has eased the uneasiness and given me some comfort is that even though this current circumstance is brand new to all of us, life comes full circle. When things go down, they must come back up, and so while this time is scary and unpredictable, one thing we CAN predict is that it will all end… we, it all will bounce back. And until then, here’s how you can get a handle on what you-my friend of control.
1. Do ONE thing a day to progress.
There are certain camps of people out there shouting to DO ALL THE THINGS and ACHIEVE ALL THE GOALS right now. I mean we have all the time, right? WRONG! We are mommas and that alone is a full-time job. I don't care if your a corporate mom or a SAHM, it's werk! So you don’t have to use this time to fix your life and make all your dreams come true. In fact, who has the mental capacity or time, truly? What you CAN do is to focus on doing one thing a day to move forward. It could be a personal goal or professional. It could be something for your family or your finances. It can be something super small or really important. Guess what, you get to decide.
Whatever it is, do something each day to move toward that goal. Now, that one thing might mean spending an extra 30 minutes with one of your children, or it might mean spending 4 hours creating a strategy for your business during this time. It doesn’t have to be all the things every day, and in fact, it will probably be small, imperfect steps most days. And that is enough. Messy action is always better than no action.
2. Rest is a PRIORITY.
Lean In: you need sleep. You need breaks. You need to take deep, lung and gut-filling breaths. LIKE A LOT. All-day, friend. Pause, reflect, stretch, nap, change the scene, roll out your neck, sit in the sun if you can. Stress is funny because it takes this toll on our sleep and makes our hearts beat a little faster, making rest seem impossible, right? Yet real, nourishing rest is one of the best things you can do to alleviate stress and bring more calm to your world.
So even though it won’t feel natural, even though it MAY stress you out more at first, begin prioritizing rest in any way you can. Get 8 hours of sleep at night. Protect your sleep hygiene by not looking at screens an hour before bed, drinking chamomile or lavender decaf tea at night, dimming your lights in your room, and going to bed/waking up at the same time each day.
3. Lists are your FRIEND.
When the world just went to 60 like that, my mind reacts similarly and gets more jumbled and frazzled than ever. I have learned that lists are my best friend because I can dump everything that’s rattling around in my mind into one place that I can then begin working through whenever it feels right. And I mean everything — we aren’t just talking to-do lists here (though that’s a great place to start).
Make a list of house projects, of things you need to grab on your next grocery run(Alexa had saved me on this), of topics you’d like to learn more about. Make lists of gratitude, of books you want to read, of shows you want to watch, of places you want to visit. Write a list for what you want to get done this week, what you want to celebrate in the coming year, what you want to improve in your business in the next 3 months.
You know when you’re lying awake at night just thinking or worrying about things, or something comes to you in the shower and hoping you don’t forget to do this or that? Write it down(I need a waterproof whiteboard)! I promise it will alleviate so much of the spinning thought-circles that we all encounter and will help you keep track of all the things, without them stressing you the heck out all the time.
4. Boundaries are GOOD.
Momma, this might seem silly to create boundaries but its so vital. i.e. the news. While everything seems urgent on the news, checking in once a day, or even every other day, is plenty to get the latest information and updates. Keeping it running in the background as you go about your day will only create more tension. How do I know? Well, just trust me on this one.
Boundaries are also good for relationships by letting others know how and when they can reach you, work by setting specific start and stop times, and your health by creating habits that are sustainable and feel good. We can’t control external things or other people, but we can still control how we react to things and how we choose to protect our energy. If you don’t like something happening in your immediate life or circle, check if there’s any way you could create a healthy boundary for it. Again trust me on this one!
5. HELP, GIVE, & SUPPORT others when you can.
We can’t fix the world’s problems but we can do little things to help one another right now. Even just keeping in touch with loved ones who might be more isolated than others is a way to help and lift someone else up. You have no idea just how much this may mean to them. You can also support small businesses by ordering products/services online, buying gift cards, writing positive online reviews, or featuring them on your social media channels, blog, or newsletter. Reach out to other entrepreneurs you know to see how they’re doing and if you can support them in any way.
Something about giving what you can to those who need it — whether you’re giving monetarily or with your time — can bring a lot of healing and brightness to your day, as well as uplift your community. How can you give back in some way each day? Find the opportunities and then fill them with light.
Letting go of what doesn’t serve you or fall in your field of favor, you’ll begin tapping into the things you truly have power over. Your thoughts, actions, beliefs, and mindset are where you can flourish right now, so focus there and everything else will sort itself out in due time.